Drug addiction

Drug Abuse:

The reason I have chosen smoking and alcohol is because it is what most teens are doing in today’s modern times. When your teens go out they get exposed to these sorts of things that you would never expect them to be. It’s not a thing you should be afraid of. Sooner or later they are definitely going to try do it. Even if it means just have hub or a drink, that’s what is going to happen. Being exposed to it for the first time under peer pressure and seeing that all your friends are doing it so it all seems okay to you right? But is it really have you seen what it can do to you? It kills you inside literally. Sometimes kids do it as a sign of relief from pressure, to take their minds off things and make themselves feel better about the situation and to get over there past. It’s always the first time that if you can get away with it you will be fine ‘forever’ story. Thinking your child has made the mistake and won’t do it again, but us teens like testing boundaries and taking things the extra mile. Learning from past experiences, going out with the same group of friends making the same mistakes, doing all the same wrong things and not doing anything about it. Seeing friends get it fights because they starting to owe each other money from always buying them alcohol or cigarettes or flavours for hub, it is actually quite scary and horrible.

Grow a sense of a relationship with your teen so they can start trusting you and opening up to you. Don’t be on their case all the time because then they will trust you less, start the conversation when you with them alone but don’t make them feel forced, once you have showed you are willing to help them they will slowly begin to trust you and start telling you things in small details. Do not judge your child or do something they would want you to do because that little bit of embarrassment could be enough for them to lose there just with you completely. Let them tell you things don’t cross question them, as soon as they are feeling insecure or endangered they will come to you first. Sometimes have a few of the same friends could be a good thing like if they do the same sports or good friends at school, they can influence them in such a manner that they wouldn’t want to be in the situation they are in. Don’t ever expose your child, it can come across in many wrong ways even as a threat to others, never talk about it with anyone unless you are able to trust that person and they are able to trust you, preferably a friend that is the same sex as you, don’t let your partner know about these sorts of things as it can cause family drama, and somebody could end up getting hurt.

Teen’s hardest years are preparing for and adult, it may not seem like it to you but teens can get heavily depressed, which can lead onto self-mutilation. Smoking can also be a sign of relief any may do it to get to cloud 9 by smoking weed and just having fun with friends, we also begin to do this as a sign of acceptance and relief. Being accepted by your peers are also very important.

Not so long ago, I changed a few things in my life and ‘lost’ a few friends due to the fact of bringing me into situations I didn’t want to be in, things I didn’t want to do and didn’t want to lose myself at 14. When friends get under the influence of alcohol at my age they are still light weights and takes only about one or two drinks for them to start moving into situations they don’t want to be in, some friends go all physical with punches and others go sexual it is very weird in which they handle the situation.


How to find out if your child is smoking:

  1. Take all pocket money away and stop giving them spending money

This is allowing us to see if that’s what they spending the money on and noticing anything different of behaviour

  1. Don’t allow them to go out for one weekend, as punishment of ‘bad behaviour’

So you can see if they really doing it for smoking causes or if they just going out with friends

  1. Encourage them to spend time with the family

They really not going to want to and might be upset with it but encourage them to socialise with the family, giving them a break and a chance to take an eye off their screens

  1. Let them chose a movie for the family to watch

By giving them the choice maybe more encouraging for them and may want to cause the more to want to be with the family

  1. Put hidden cameras in bedroom and bathroom over time

To see if they sneak off and if that is what they get up to

  1. Walk in on them inexpertly

By doing this you could catch those red handed

  1. If they have no sign of being anxious or seeming more depressed they fine

If they get depressed without having money it could be a sign

  1. Allow them to go out the next weekend

So they can go out with their friends and should lead you a trust

  1. Check there teeth and hands regularly

Their teeth may begin to turn yellow, and their hands will start smelling like smoke

  1. Check on the carpets, next to their beds

See if there are burns on the carpet and if it is beginning to smell.

Long term dangers of smoking:

  • Nicotine goes into brain for 10 seconds every inhalation
  •  Affects your lungs and airways
  • More and worse colds and flu’s infections
  • Poor response to flu vaccination
  • More likely to get sick
  • Asthma harder to control
  • Pre-cancer tissues turn to cancer
  • Lungs and death at a greater rate of 20%

If it is found by you that your child is smoking get a doctor or rehab to help you.


How to know if you’re teen is drinking:

  1. Been carrying a weird back pack lately

They could be using their favourite back pack, school bag and carrying it around every where. They could be hiding alcohol in it and use it as a get away.

  1. Talk softly over the phone

Hiding things away from them and making them all hush about it so nobody finds out what they doing or where they going.

  1. Avoid to say where they going out

They could be going to a secret get away and could be using it as a hiding place and would want you to stay there.


Long term dangers of drinking:

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  • Kills liver
  • Disappears in water of body
  • Heavy on calories
  • Fattening
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Teen blog


So next year you are going to high school. Are you freaked out? You most probably are, but do not worry; that is normal. It is very common to fear going into high school, going from being the biggest fish in a small pond, to being the smallest fish in the biggest pond. It is quite daunting.

For the parents, this can also be quite challenging to help your children adjust, to this new ‘teen scene’. The most important thing is to be supportive and loving.

Your children need to be shown love, especially if they feel insecure about themselves. You can do this by:

  • Sending them loving notes to school in their lunchboxes.
  •  Offer your assistance to them constantly, to make it known to them that you are there to help and lean on (make sure you don’t end up doing their homework for them though).
  • Reward them once they have achieved one of their goals.
  • Speak to them about their needs, wants, goals and schedules, so that you know what is going on in their lives.

For the student. GET INVOLVED! Whether it is by joining the swimming or tennis team, the choir, or the school’s production. This will help you to make friends with people who share similar interests to you, and it will also help to take your mind off school and work. Try to make sure you get join in at least one activity, this will help you to keep busy and can also give you a break from the outside world.


Man children do not enjoy high school as they feel they get bullied because they are the youngest in the school. But you do not need to worry. Ignore that bully. Do not let them get to you, this will only make them enjoy it more and therefore will continue to do it. Make sure you stand up for yourself and for what you believe in. Do not be a victim because you are small and definitely do not let them make you feel less significant than you really are. You have rights and they cannot take them away from you.


Self Mutalation

Self-harm or self-mutilation is the deliberate action upon oneself to injure the body.  The most common form of self-harm is cutting. This is done with the use of a blade or razor. Other ways also include burning, scratching or banging parts of the body. Self-harm may cause you to feel something, to make you aware that you are living and can still feel. It is a way for many to release pain and anger.

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Many patients suffer from depression, and therefore cut to feel some sort of pain as their body has become numb to the outside world. They feel they cannot deal with the amount of pressure they are put under so they tend to hide away from others. They might feel as though they have a need to be perfect and then once again are put under stress and pressure to keep up with expectations. Self-harm allows for people to express their emotional pain. It may be the only way for some in dealing with sadness, depression and loneliness.

Self-harm is most common in teenage years as the need to fit in and be accepted is so high. Childhood self-harm is drastically increasing with children as young as 12 committing these ‘crimes’ to their bodies. Self-harm is common amongst both boys and girls and can cause serious effects later on in life.

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The majority of self-harm is done with the use of sharp objects to stab or cut the skin. There are also many other ways to self-harm including overdosing on prescription drugs, excessive alcohol abuse, the pulling out of hair. However, self-harm is not limited to the above mentioned activities, it all depends on what the individual has available to him/her.

Many people believe that people self-harm for attention, when in actual fact they do it in secret. They will often hide away and will want to be alone for some time. The individual who is committing the self-harm is often ashamed and embarrassed about their behaviour and will not willing come forward to ask for help.

It is often hard for people who self-harm to communicate with others in social situations. This means that they find it very difficult to be out in public and have trouble making friends as they constantly want to be alone. If you know of someone who self-harms don’t make it obvious and don’t judge that person for their actions. This may cause the individual to become even more hurt and will then further continue to self-harm.

Some of the symptoms of self-harm:

  • Cut or burns on wrists
  • Sharp objects kept lying in personal possession
  • Spending an enormous amount of time locked in a room alone
  • Wearing long sleeve or long pants in hot weather
  • Feeling helpless or lost

If these symptoms are apparent in your child please visit a psychologist for more information on self-mutilation.

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If you know of others who self-harm offer comfort and assistance to them. They are emotionally unstable and will find it incredibly difficult to trust others but try and be kind, show them love and they will respond. All they are truly looking for is someone to care and love them for who they are!

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What is bullying?

Bullying is everywhere, in preparatory schools, high schools and even the work place. Bullying is the continuous aggressive behaviour that harms or causes agitation or discomfort towards others intentionally.

Forms of bullying

  • VerbalHurts a person emotionally. Usually done via insults such as name calling, spreading rumours, teasing, and because of different culture, religion, gender and ethnicity, etc.
  •  Mocking or humiliating others in public, excluding someone out of a group of friends, threatening letters, notes, words etc.
  • PhysicalPunching, pinching, slapping, kicking, shoving and unwanted touching.
  • CyberDone over any technological devices and social medias. Such as FaceBook, Instagram, Twitter, flickr, etc. (In this case try monitor the social medias that your chil(ren) sign up to. Even if you create an account for each social media and make sure your child understands the reason for this, without intruding or stalking their social media pages. So, for the parents that enjoy commenting on all your child(ren)’s picture, go ahead, but limit yourselves to how many comments you make and try not to embarrass them.)

Effects of bullying:

  • Children become scared to try new things.
  • Hurt physically, emotionally, and mentally.
  • Can lead to depression
  • Can then lead to suicide
  • Drug and alcohol problems
  • Anti-Social behaviours
  • Cutting
  • Desire for revenge
  • Mental illness

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How does bullying contribute to depression and suicide?

If a person who is continuously bullied does not find help (from a parent, teacher, friend, psychologist or anyone willing to help) they tend to feel weak, helpless and unloved. They feel like nothing or no one can help the situation that they are in. They then isolate themselves and turn to depression and soon have suicidal thoughts. Sometimes these suicidal thoughts become real and are carried out. That’s why it is essential for any parent to help their child(ren) understand that they will always be loved by them and maintain a healthy and open relationship with them.

What are the symptoms/signs that indicate if someone is being bullied?

Look for changes in the child(ren)’s life. NOTE: Not all children do show signs of being bullied verbally, physically, socially or cyber on social medias.

  • Unexplainable injuries
  • Frequent destroyed or loss of clothing, books, electronics, or jewelry. (Maybe destroyed or stolen by the bully.)
  • Frequent illness or faking illness to get out school, family days, etc.
  • Changes in eating habits, such as skipping meals, eating significantly smaller portions or binge eating. Children may come home from school hungry, because they missed lunch. (Bully may have taken lunch or lunch money from child.)
  • Trouble sleeping or frequent nightmares.
  • Bad marks, not wanting to go to school by faking illness or simply refusing.
  • Loss of friends or avoidance of social situations
  • Concern over self image, personality etc. (low self esteem)
  • Self-destructive behaviors such as running away from home, harming themselves (cutting, burning, picking), talk of suicide.  The bully is either larger in size or stronger physically. The bully is usually of higher status (popularity within school or only child.)Who are the targets? What do they look like?“perfect” person, who everyone aspires to be and who reacts to the bullies, as the bullies enjoy people who put up a fight. It creates a challenge/chase for the bully. This does not by all means mean that your child(ren) should give up if they are being bullied. This means that if they are indeed being bullied, sort out the situation immediately and end it once and for all, because if it continues, the bully will then continue to bully.    Extracted from http://www.wikihow.com/Deal-With-Bullies

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Tips on how to overcome bullying- Refer to website below for more tips with pictures.

  • The targets are people who are smaller than the bully by strength or physically by size. The targets are usually the people who are emotional and who are different from the
  • The bullies sometimes bully because of family issues (abusive homes, family fighting, etc.). The bullies need to be in control or dominant over others, as they maybe hot-headed or need to release some anger. Bullies receive attention if they show certain dominance over others, like bullying others to make them feel insecure and helpless, if the bully bullies someone by taking their lunch money, they will receive the lunch money. It also shows others to not make the mistake by messing with them (to redirect the bullying). The bullies sometimes enjoy watching people be miserable and endure pain, as they think this will cover up their own personal pain from something else.

What does the bully usually look like and what do their backgrounds look like? 

  • “Walk with a purposeful confidence and a ‘don’t you dare mess with me attitude.’
  • Remember that bullies can’t hurt you. They just want to show that they’re ‘powerful’, even though they show just the opposite: They are cowards. Really powerful people show their power in other ways, not by humiliating others that are ‘weaker’ than them. Show them that you’re not afraid of them.
  • Whatever you do, do not actually fight the bully unless you are in serious danger of injury.
  • Be aware of your surroundings. Walk with your head up looking forward in the direction you are walking, use your peripheral vision to be aware of the people around you.
  • Ignore them and walk away- that’s your best bet. All they want is attention.
  • Some bullies might just be jealous of you. They only bully you because you have a great talent that they don’t have, so be proud of what you are doing. Calling names is not fun. Actually, what’s deep inside those bullies is they don’t have the guts to do what you do the best.
  • Don’t take anything bullies say to heart – they are not worthy of your tears! Do not let their words stop you from achieving your goals! Show confidence, and show to them that their words have no effect on you.
  • Stay calm at all times, as this will puzzle and frustrate a typical bully at their attempts to elicit a negative reaction.
  • Be assertive and stand your ground.
  • Tell someone the second you feel threatened. If you’ve read any terrifying stories about people being bullied for 8 years, the main problem is lack of communication.
  • Never say anything bad to be defensive. Doing what the bully does for “revenge” means you’re just as bad as they are.
  • Never try to get revenge. It will please them even more. Try the silent treatment.
  • Try to be cheerful.
  • Keep a cool head. One wrong thing said could be enough to get into a fight.”

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Fitness ProgramImage

  1. Start by taking a relatively slow jog around a 400m field.
  2. Stand in a circle and do static stretches (see list of instructions below).
  3. Stand on a line on the field and complete the dynamic warm-ups (see instructions below).
  4. It is very important to do these warm-ups properly and slowly, taking care to stretch each muscle as best as possible, to avoid injury and to get your blood flowing, before you get started.
  5. You will be taking part in an orienteering course. At each station you will have to complete a fitness obstacle to receive your next clue.
  6. At our station you will be doing some core work and cardio.
  7. For the core work: get into pairs, sit down and link your legs. Do as many possible sit-ups in one minute as you can. Try to get at least over 20, just to make sure that you are actually doing some work. (Refer to video)
  8. For the cardio you will be skipping. Give each member of your group a skipping rope and skip for one minute. Jump with two feet, landing gently on your toes each time to avoid shin splints.
  9. After completing this station you will be given your next clue to continue the course.
  10. Once you have finished the full course of orienteering, take a slow jog around the field just to cool down your muscles.
  11. Stand in a circle again and do all the static stretches to avoid getting stiff.


Static Stretches:

  1. Pull your neck in each direction. Make sure you create resistance.
  2. Pull your arm across your chest and holding it up with your other arm, make sure you actually feel a pull, if you don’t, try to shift your arm up or down a little bit, so you can feel it. Do this with both arms.
  3. Stand with your legs shoulder width apart, and bend over to touch your toes, keeping your legs straight. Hold for 15 seconds and then stretch upwards and move your feet together and do this again.
  4. Stand on one leg and hold your other foot behind you with a bent knee, hold for 15 seconds the switch legs.
  5. Stand with your legs just further than shoulder width apart with your hands on your hips. Bend one of your knees and move your hips in that direction, transferring all your weight onto that leg and foot. Make sure your knee does not bend over your toes. Hold for 15 seconds and then switch sides.
  6. Sit on the floor with one leg straight in front of you and your other leg bent. Cross your bent leg over your straight leg, keeping that leg bent and placing your foot flat on the floor just above your straight leg’s knee. Take your arm on the opposite side of your bent leg, and cross that elbow over to the outside of your bent leg’s knee. Hold for 15 seconds then switch sides.
  7. Place both legs in front of you and lift your ankles up and down. This will help to avoid ankle injuries.
  8. Flick your fingers and roll your wrists, this will help to avoid finger or wrist injuries.


Dynamic Stretches:

For this you need to set out a 15m running space.

  1. HIGH KNEES: Run and each step you take you must raise your knees as high as possible. This will stretch the back of your quad muscle.
  2. BUM KICKS: Run and kick your bum with each step you take. This will stretch the front of your quad muscle.
  3. HITLERS: Run and flick your legs out in front of you with each step you take. This will help to get your blood flowing and to loosen your leg muscles.
  4. HIGH SPRINGBOK: Spring as high as you can off one foot with each step you take. Raise your opposite arm to give you more momentum.
  5. LONG SPRINGBOK: This is the same as number 4, but instead of jumping up, you need to jump as far out in front of you. Once again using your arms to give you momentum.


Why is exercise good for you?

Exercise is good for you for a number of reasons. You get your blood flowing. You will be more active, which will give you more energy and you will raise your fitness levels – even if it’s only a little bit. You will be getting and looking healthier. Even your posture, hair and skin will be positively affected. You feel and look stronger.

Doing exercise releases a feel good, peaceful hormone into your system. It makes you feel better about yourself. This makes you more mentally alert and it helps to clear your mind, so you can start fresh. This is especially useful when studying or doing homework, so you can forget everything and just put your head down and work. This will help you to remember your work better in tests and will possibly improve your overall marks.

By clearing your mind (like mentioned above), you are more likely to escape depression or stress. You will feel happy and this will help you to cope better under difficult circumstances. You can even boost your self-confidence by exercising. For example if you continue to struggle with an activity, but you work hard to perfect it and you get it, you will raise you self-esteem. This will help you to be more courageous, because you will have more faith in yourself. You will also be able to sleep better because you will have used up that extra bit of energy.

When you exercise, make sure you get your heart rate up and maybe even break into a sweat, otherwise you are not doing much. Also, don’t kill yourself on your first practice, or session, push yourself a little bit more every time if you really want to see good results, but make sure you don’t push past your breaking point. And remember if you cheat, you, you are only cheating yourself. You will never regret getting doing physical activity.

Check out these interesting case studies done online, about how exercise has affected people…

: http://www.ideafit.com/fitness-library/psychology-exercise-1



Eating disorders

We have all encountered people who suffer from eating disorders. It is quite a noticeable disease and is often quite serious. Two of the eating disorders which will be mentioned below are very common amongst teenagers. These are namely bulimia and anorexia. Eating disorders are usually classified as eating either too little or too much food, which then further affect the way a person functions.
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There are causes to an eating disorder, including: biological, physiological and sometimes environmental aspects. Many people who suffer from an eating disorder also suffer from Body dysmorphic disorder, which is a disorder in which an individual is concerned about their body image.

The media plays a very important role as we are constantly being exposed to images of the ideal girl or boy. An individual will try to be like that person and will go to extreme lengths to be ‘perfect’.

Anorexia nervosa (or Ana as it is called by some) is the constant need to be thin. This means that there is a lack of food consumption, resulting in a very undernourished and bony figure. Due to their constant fear of weight gain, an individual will eat very insignificant amounts of food, this further results in a lack of energy as they are not consuming the required amount of food. To balance the energy loss the begin to consume an excessive amount of caffeine. Some individuals also begin to smoke as they feel the nicotine inside the cigarette will provide them with the required energy they need to perform everyday tasks.
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Anorexia nervosa is mainly found in females, however, has begun to increase in males over the past 5 years. A ratio of in every 10 anorexia patients 1 will be male and the other 9 will be female. This occurs as there is less pressure for men to be thin than women.

Some important symptoms follow:

  • Mild form of depression
  • A very abnormal body mass for the individuals age
  • Constant weighing of food calories
  • Swollen joints
  • Vomiting out of food
  • Enlarged cheeks due to swollen salivary glands caused by vomiting
  • Frequent mood swings
  • Thinning hair as well as dry hair and flaky nails
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If you are worried your teenager could be suffering from anorexia it is advised they are seen to by a doctor or psychologist

Bulimia nervosa, or otherwise known as Mia, is also found commonly amongst teenagers. It is characterized by overeating in a very small amount of time. Binge eating and then vomiting out the contents of the stomach is bulimia.

Bulimia and anorexia are closely linked as the sufferer is obsessed with their self-image. Bulimia is not as noticeable as anorexia as the patients are often of a normal weight. Bulimia causes the erosion of the lower teeth and can also have drastic affects to the lining of the stomach due to the constant vomiting of the food, which erodes the enamel on the teeth. The hydrochloric acid inside the stomach causes the stomach lining to be eaten away and may cause stomach ulcers.

Some symptoms may include:

  • Dehydration due to constant vomiting
  • Enlarged glands around the neck
  • Scars on the back of hands due to the incisors scraping the when they are inserted into mouth.
  • Erosion of teeth enamel
  • Inflammation of the oesophagus
  • Constipation
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If your child displays these symptoms please visit a local doctor or psychologist for a diagnosis.