The reason I have chosen smoking and alcohol is because it is what most teens are doing in today’s modern times. When your teens go out they get exposed to these sorts of things that you would never expect them to be. It’s not a thing you should be afraid of. Sooner or later they are definitely going to try do it. Even if it means just have hub or a drink, that’s what is going to happen. Being exposed to it for the first time under peer pressure and seeing that all your friends are doing it so it all seems okay to you right? But is it really have you seen what it can do to you? It kills you inside literally. Sometimes kids do it as a sign of relief from pressure, to take their minds off things and make themselves feel better about the situation and to get over there past. It’s always the first time that if you can get away with it you will be fine ‘forever’ story. Thinking your child has made the mistake and won’t do it again, but us teens like testing boundaries and taking things the extra mile. Learning from past experiences, going out with the same group of friends making the same mistakes, doing all the same wrong things and not doing anything about it. Seeing friends get it fights because they starting to owe each other money from always buying them alcohol or cigarettes or flavours for hub, it is actually quite scary and horrible.
Grow a sense of a relationship with your teen so they can start trusting you and opening up to you. Don’t be on their case all the time because then they will trust you less, start the conversation when you with them alone but don’t make them feel forced, once you have showed you are willing to help them they will slowly begin to trust you and start telling you things in small details. Do not judge your child or do something they would want you to do because that little bit of embarrassment could be enough for them to lose there just with you completely. Let them tell you things don’t cross question them, as soon as they are feeling insecure or endangered they will come to you first. Sometimes have a few of the same friends could be a good thing like if they do the same sports or good friends at school, they can influence them in such a manner that they wouldn’t want to be in the situation they are in. Don’t ever expose your child, it can come across in many wrong ways even as a threat to others, never talk about it with anyone unless you are able to trust that person and they are able to trust you, preferably a friend that is the same sex as you, don’t let your partner know about these sorts of things as it can cause family drama, and somebody could end up getting hurt.
Teen’s hardest years are preparing for and adult, it may not seem like it to you but teens can get heavily depressed, which can lead onto self-mutilation. Smoking can also be a sign of relief any may do it to get to cloud 9 by smoking weed and just having fun with friends, we also begin to do this as a sign of acceptance and relief. Being accepted by your peers are also very important.
Not so long ago, I changed a few things in my life and ‘lost’ a few friends due to the fact of bringing me into situations I didn’t want to be in, things I didn’t want to do and didn’t want to lose myself at 14. When friends get under the influence of alcohol at my age they are still light weights and takes only about one or two drinks for them to start moving into situations they don’t want to be in, some friends go all physical with punches and others go sexual it is very weird in which they handle the situation.
How to find out if your child is smoking:
- Take all pocket money away and stop giving them spending money
This is allowing us to see if that’s what they spending the money on and noticing anything different of behaviour
- Don’t allow them to go out for one weekend, as punishment of ‘bad behaviour’
So you can see if they really doing it for smoking causes or if they just going out with friends
- Encourage them to spend time with the family
They really not going to want to and might be upset with it but encourage them to socialise with the family, giving them a break and a chance to take an eye off their screens
- Let them chose a movie for the family to watch
By giving them the choice maybe more encouraging for them and may want to cause the more to want to be with the family
- Put hidden cameras in bedroom and bathroom over time
To see if they sneak off and if that is what they get up to
- Walk in on them inexpertly
By doing this you could catch those red handed
- If they have no sign of being anxious or seeming more depressed they fine
If they get depressed without having money it could be a sign
- Allow them to go out the next weekend
So they can go out with their friends and should lead you a trust
- Check there teeth and hands regularly
Their teeth may begin to turn yellow, and their hands will start smelling like smoke
- Check on the carpets, next to their beds
See if there are burns on the carpet and if it is beginning to smell.
Long term dangers of smoking:
- Nicotine goes into brain for 10 seconds every inhalation
- Affects your lungs and airways
- More and worse colds and flu’s infections
- Poor response to flu vaccination
- More likely to get sick
- Asthma harder to control
- Pre-cancer tissues turn to cancer
- Lungs and death at a greater rate of 20%
If it is found by you that your child is smoking get a doctor or rehab to help you.
How to know if you’re teen is drinking:
- Been carrying a weird back pack lately
They could be using their favourite back pack, school bag and carrying it around every where. They could be hiding alcohol in it and use it as a get away.
- Talk softly over the phone
Hiding things away from them and making them all hush about it so nobody finds out what they doing or where they going.
- Avoid to say where they going out
They could be going to a secret get away and could be using it as a hiding place and would want you to stay there.
Long term dangers of drinking:
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- Kills liver
- Disappears in water of body
- Heavy on calories
- Brain or organ damage